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 HerbLaur
   
Just boobs.
Location: No Damn Good
I'd call you a cunt but you have nowhere near the depth or warmth.
 |  | How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
< on 6/22/2008 9:51 PM >
|  | | | I've been doing this since my tender teenage years, but recently out of boredom or jealousy or what, she's decided she wants to tag along. I've done everything I can think of to convince her not to, even shown her the spider thread, and it's still not working. I know it would be a huge mistake to take her, even to a noob spot, so I need as much help as I can get!
Any advice...? =]
There are many other things we share, activities we do together, but you have to understand that after knowing her for 13 years I know what I'm saying when I say its not smart. Thanks to all you would-be marriage counsellors out there, but the problem is more she doesn't want me going without her, then it is that she really wants to go... if you get what I mean.
[last edit 6/22/2008 11:14 PM by HerbLaur - edited 1 times]
I’m quite positive that you’ve slept with someone uglier than me, and I’m sure I’ve slept with someone hotter than you. So let’s just call it a draw. |
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PhotoSeeker
  
Location: Sudbury
Gender: Male
MikeOnline
| |  | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 1 on 6/22/2008 9:54 PM >
| | | | Posted by thewo
I've been doing this since my tender teenage years, but recently out of boredom or jealousy or what, she's decided she wants to tag along. I've done everything I can think of to convince her not to, even shown her the spider thread, and it's still not working. I know it would be a huge mistake to take her, even to a noob spot, so I need as much help as I can get!
Any advice...? =]
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Maybe it would help to know the source of your objection to having her along.
Lots of Urban Exploration goodness at https://urbexobsession.com |
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Intrinsic
  
Location: Collingwood
Gender: Male
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 2 on 6/22/2008 9:56 PM >
| | | | As simplstic as this may sound... get in the car and go! Unless you live with her, or she lives across the street, surely you're capable of taking off on a roadtrip without her knowing.
If any of the above apply, simply tell her that you're taking your car to the car wash.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=vBZqwsgtMOc
[last edit 6/22/2008 10:01 PM by Intrinsic - edited 2 times]
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HerbLaur
Just boobs.
Location: No Damn Good
I'd call you a cunt but you have nowhere near the depth or warmth.
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 3 on 6/22/2008 10:03 PM >
| | | | OK, my objections are as follows....
she thinks she's tougher than she is
she thinks she's ok with dirt and mold but she's not
she thinks she's not scared of squatters but she is
she wants to go to schools and stuff and " find old books"
she wants to go to old breweries and take old bottles and cups
I think she thinks its glamorous?
she wants to buy a respirator
she thinks a little l e d is ok ( I play with my cat with it)
THE LIST GOES ON AND ON
and yes we live together and yes she's my gf. (notice the little flag thingy?)
I’m quite positive that you’ve slept with someone uglier than me, and I’m sure I’ve slept with someone hotter than you. So let’s just call it a draw. |
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maypost
Location: North, South, East, West, all around... then down to the underground
Gender: Male
Exploring if for n00bz0rz
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 4 on 6/22/2008 10:06 PM >
| | | | Posted by thewo
OK, my objections are as follows....
she thinks she's tougher than she is
she thinks she's ok with dirt and mold but she's not
she thinks she's not scared of squatters but she is
she wants to go to schools and stuff and " find old books"
she wants to go to old breweries and take old bottles and cups
I think she thinks its glamorous?
she wants to buy a respirator
she thinks a little l e d is ok ( I play with my cat with it)
THE LIST GOES ON AND ON
and yes we live together and yes she's my gf. (notice the little flag thingy?)
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From this description, I would say let her go with you.
You just described almost all of us in one way or another. I am more concerned with why you are so against your significant other sharing the same interests with you.
Exploring is like tattoos... They stopped being cool in 2005
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HerbLaur
Just boobs.
Location: No Damn Good
I'd call you a cunt but you have nowhere near the depth or warmth.
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 5 on 6/22/2008 10:09 PM >
| | | | She smoked a joint in the courtyard of Canadian Maltage. I dont know if anyone's noticed...while there are very few no trespassing signs, there are many no smoking ones.... explosive, much?
I think the problem is the one time she did come with me it was to redpath in like '99, and it was like my second home so for her the trip was smooth as buttah, not the kind of exploration she'd get now...
[last edit 6/22/2008 10:10 PM by HerbLaur - edited 1 times]
I’m quite positive that you’ve slept with someone uglier than me, and I’m sure I’ve slept with someone hotter than you. So let’s just call it a draw. |
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PhotoSeeker
Location: Sudbury
Gender: Male
MikeOnline
| | | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 6 on 6/22/2008 10:12 PM >
| | | | Posted by thewo
OK, my objections are as follows....
she thinks she's tougher than she is
she thinks she's ok with dirt and mold but she's not
she thinks she's not scared of squatters but she is
she wants to go to schools and stuff and " find old books"
she wants to go to old breweries and take old bottles and cups
I think she thinks its glamorous?
she wants to buy a respirator
she thinks a little l e d is ok ( I play with my cat with it)
THE LIST GOES ON AND ON
and yes we live together and yes she's my gf. (notice the little flag thingy?)
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Take her draining and gross her out.
Lots of Urban Exploration goodness at https://urbexobsession.com |
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Intrinsic
Location: Collingwood
Gender: Male
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 7 on 6/22/2008 10:14 PM >
| | | | I think you summed it up: "think she thinks its glamorous?"
Taking old bottles and school books sounds like fun. What is there to not enjoy about visiting such places and removing these items. We've all been captivated by other people's photos on here and said, "I wish I could explore that place". I say that all the time.
The difference is, most of us here obey the unwritten rule. We do not steal what is not ours. Your friend sounds as if she's looking for a garage-sale and naive of the code of ethics that we follow.
I might start by telling her that if we all pilfered, these places would have nothing left of photogenic value. Explain that smoking around old abandonments could lead to fire. Arson is a problem as well.
Once she can appreciate the value of these places, historic and photogenic, then maybe she can attend with you. Until then she needs to understand what you do, you don't do as an alternative to shopping at Wal-Mart.
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maypost
Location: North, South, East, West, all around... then down to the underground
Gender: Male
Exploring if for n00bz0rz
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 8 on 6/22/2008 10:17 PM >
| | | | Posted by sudbury
I think you summed it up: "think she thinks its glamorous?"
Taking old bottles and school books sounds like fun. What is there to not enjoy about visiting such places and removing these items. We've all been captivated by other people's photos on here and said, "I wish I could explore that place". I say that all the time.
The difference is, most of us here obey the unwritten rule. We do not steal what is not ours. Your friend sounds as if she's looking for a garage-sale and naive of the code of ethics that we follow.
I might start by telling her that if we all pilfered, these places would have nothing left of photogenic value. Explain that smoking around old abandonments could lead to fire. Arson is a problem as well.
Once she can appreciate the value of these places, historic and photogenic, then maybe she can attend with you. Until then she needs to understand what you do, you don't do as an alternative to shopping at Wal-Mart.
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Can we PLEASE not turn this into another BORING ethics thread?
PRETTY PLEASE
Exploring is like tattoos... They stopped being cool in 2005
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argonian
Location: Toronto, ON
Gender: Female
"Now with added cats!"
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 9 on 6/22/2008 10:19 PM >
| | | | Show her this thread.
Que pasa, baby? |
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Intrinsic
Location: Collingwood
Gender: Male
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 10 on 6/22/2008 10:19 PM >
| | | | Posted by David Dong
Can we PLEASE not turn this into another BORING ethics thread?
PRETTY PLEASE
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Education is the first step when it comes to ignorance. In this case I think it applies perfectly.
I agree with Argonian, 100%. You came here to ask for advice, let her read what others have to say.
[last edit 6/22/2008 10:21 PM by Intrinsic - edited 1 times]
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HerbLaur
Just boobs.
Location: No Damn Good
I'd call you a cunt but you have nowhere near the depth or warmth.
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 11 on 6/22/2008 10:22 PM >
| | | | But then she'll hit me...
I’m quite positive that you’ve slept with someone uglier than me, and I’m sure I’ve slept with someone hotter than you. So let’s just call it a draw. |
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maypost
Location: North, South, East, West, all around... then down to the underground
Gender: Male
Exploring if for n00bz0rz
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 12 on 6/22/2008 10:23 PM >
| | | | I am not getting in to if I agree or not with what you are saying, that is not the point.
The point is, that once ethics comes into play on any thread, it is only a matter of time before it turns into a flamefest and then it gets locked...all without the OP getting any real answers.
Ethics discussion = Death to any thread. There is so much info on ethics on here by using a search, that there is no need ot rehash any of it. Only bad comes from it.
Exploring is like tattoos... They stopped being cool in 2005
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argonian
Location: Toronto, ON
Gender: Female
"Now with added cats!"
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 13 on 6/22/2008 10:33 PM >
| | | | Posted by sudbury
I agree with Argonian, 100%. You came here to ask for advice, let her read what others have to say.
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Ah, the wonders of written communication. It is easy misunderstand each other. I don't care about what others are saying, I was more concerned with her lady love seeing what the OP was saying about her.
Posted by the fellow that use to be maypost
I am more concerned with why you are so against your significant other sharing the same interests with you. |
If I am not misunderstanding the fellow, I agree with maypost 100%
[last edit 6/22/2008 11:11 PM by argonian - edited 1 times]
Que pasa, baby? |
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G to the Race
Hi!
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 14 on 6/22/2008 10:34 PM >
| | | | Geezums, if I was your girlfriend I would leave your ass flat. You seem to know a lot about what is best for her--let her go, if she likes it fine, if not finer for you.
You betcha |
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Intrinsic
Location: Collingwood
Gender: Male
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 15 on 6/22/2008 10:42 PM >
| | | | Posted by argonian
Ah, the wonders of written communication. It is easy misunderstand each other. I don't care about what others are saying, I was more concerned with her lady love seeing what the OP was saying about her.
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True, the OP has admitted that her partner would 'hit her' if she became aware of the message. There is something to be said for straightforward communication directly with the person rather than seeking advice from strangers online.
Regardless of ethics... I would like to ask the OP, what would be more beneficial?
A) keep partner from exploring and experiencing the urban exploration opportunities available. Have her stay at home while OP visits sites and we provide the answers as to how she may accomplish this. In the end it's not all that productive.
B ) Offer the partner some education as to some of the reasons for not taking things home. It's like camping, we clean up after ourselves for the next person so they may also enjoy the location. Offer partner education as to why it's not a good idea to smoke around old rotting wood structures.
If the partner can listen to reason and understand that there are many great places to explore, and appreciate both historically and photo-wise, and we like to keep them this way, she might make a good partner to explore with.
If she cannot understand this, wants to take stuff home, has a disregard for fire safety, then perhaps being blunt is the best course of action: "you're not mature enough to be coming with me".
And if that leads to physical abuse, well... as already mentioned, get out of that relationship.
[last edit 6/22/2008 10:43 PM by Intrinsic - edited 1 times]
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Skold
Location: Toronto
Gender: Female
done.
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 16 on 6/22/2008 10:45 PM >
| | | | Even though you gave a large list of reasons you don't want her to UE, I'm wondering if the main reason is that UE is what makes you feel unique?
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hatsumi
| | | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 17 on 6/22/2008 10:58 PM >
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let her come, dont let her get stoned, include some fence jumping, squatter dodging etc
test her mettle....maybe she'll rise to the challenge ?
or just tell her ur hot 18yr old female companions will feel put off with her tagging along ;p
drainasaurus maximus |
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Lexi
Location: Oslo, Norway
Gender: Female
I'm getting old.
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 18 on 6/22/2008 11:05 PM >
| | | | Posted by Skold
Even though you gave a large list of reasons you don't want her to UE, I'm wondering if the main reason is that UE is what makes you feel unique?
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I'm going to have to agree with Skold on this one.
You just don't want her to go because it's "your thing", and it's what makes you feel special and/or better than her.
[15:00:33] <SeeThirty> cause you're not likely to be anywhere that other people haven't been who didn't have protection
[15:00:41] <SeeThirty> still better safe than lexi |
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maypost
Location: North, South, East, West, all around... then down to the underground
Gender: Male
Exploring if for n00bz0rz
| | Re: How do I convince my girlfriend to NOT come with me?
<Reply # 19 on 6/22/2008 11:07 PM >
| | | | If my wife wanted to go explore, I would love it. I mean this is the person you love, right? When you love someone, doing you r favorite things with them make the experience all the better. I am getting the feeling that there are some deeper issues in all of this that have little or nothing to do with exploring.
Exploring is like tattoos... They stopped being cool in 2005
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