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 dallas
      
Location: seattle
Gender: Female
So long and thanks for all the fish
 |  |  | Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
< on 1/6/2012 4:32 PM >
|  | | | My partner doesnt understand my fascination with these houses.... He thinks im crazy..... Do i keep trying to make him "get it" or just give up and find another person to ue with...
amazing wife to Narf. Don't look him up or ill cut you. |
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ZenCanadian
Location: High Park, Toronto
Gender: Male
| | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 1 on 1/6/2012 4:34 PM >
| | | | If someone doesn't get it they probably won't, get a better exploring partner!
Zen and the art of infiltration...
http://www.flikr.com/photos/zenslens
Zen is an uber explorer, a demi god of craning and purveyor of the finer things in life. |
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MonoxideChild
Location: Rockford, IL
Gender: Male
~creeper~
| |  | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 2 on 1/6/2012 4:42 PM >
| | | | find a local to share the hobby with.
your significant other doesnt have to share the same hobbies as you. as long as there supportive of them and dont put them down. 
[last edit 1/6/2012 4:45 PM by MonoxideChild - edited 1 times]
~Quote By Thomas Edison~
I have far more respect for the person with a single idea who gets there than for the person with a thousand ideas who does nothing.... |
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Astro
 
Usually naked
Location: The Delta Quadrant
Gender: Male
Resistance is Futile
| | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 3 on 1/6/2012 4:55 PM >
| | | | Posted by ZenCanadian
If someone doesn't get it they probably won't, get a better exploring partner!
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Zen is right on this. I have found that having friends in the area that enjoy it is so much easier and more enjoyable. Taking a partner that doesn't get it can be a real drag, and potentially a safety issue.
Have you taken him to somewhere to explore? If not, see if he will go with you (choose a safer area though, not something high risk) and at that point he will either totally get it or he won't, but hell he tried. Right?
I have found that if your partner does not enjoy exploring, find some locals to go with (its a good idea to find them anyways and get acquainted, regardless) and then exploring can kind of be your hobby. Not that its exclusive but we all need our away time from our significant others. Hell if you make friends with the locals and such then you can go explore and than maybe your guy will meetup with y'all and just hang out and have a drink or something after your adventuring.
In the end, you can lead a horse to water...
[02:33:56] <Valkyre> Astro your whole life is ruled by the sentence ' life is better without clothes on'
[22:16:00] <DSomms> it was normal until astro got here
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dallas
Location: seattle
Gender: Female
So long and thanks for all the fish
| | | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 4 on 1/6/2012 5:00 PM >
| | | | Thanks guys.... No he has never been to a location....ive had an offer to ho out with someone else so im gonna take em up on the offer... Im a rookie so i need help not my hubby bitterness lol
amazing wife to Narf. Don't look him up or ill cut you. |
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Weirdlig
Gender: Female
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<Reply # 5 on 1/6/2012 5:00 PM >
| | | | I just tell people I am crazy. Strangely, it helps them understand.
Exploring came to me by total random fate at an extremely challenging part of my life and it literally helped keep me sane for some time--finding asylum in the asylums.
I could list off a bunch of secondary reasons...preserving history, not ready to leave my photography comfort zone, etc etc. But honestly this really helps keep me feeling young.
I spent most of my life fucking my life. Now I spend so much time buttoned down in work, maintaining the things around me, being a dependable friend...lover...human being.
I don't do anything dangerous, questionable, or bizarre anymore. I don't feel 25, I feel 52...but then when I'm exploring I feel like I'm where I belong in me.
That make any sense? Figure out what it does for you and if you're comfortable sharing it, tell your partner what it does for how you see yourself. Maybe you just like to have fun.
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Jack Strathmore
Location: Adrian, MI
Gender: Male
Good friends bail you out of jail....true friends will be with you saying, "Damn, that was fun!
| |  | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 6 on 1/6/2012 5:07 PM >
| | | | My partner doesn't understand the whole "exploring" fascination either and gets bored when my exploring buddy and I talk about it. But, he does not give us a hard time and has occasionally taken us to places, dropped us off and then picked us up (7 hours later on one occasion). The 7 hour wait was a little much for him and I did catch some shit for that one but it is all good.
Like Astro said......you can always use some alone time away from your significant other once in a while.
I would suggest that you stopped trying to convince him, meet up with some others, that have the passion as you do, and go explore!
Jack Strathmore
http://www.flickr....os/jackstrathmore/ |
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rob.i.am
  
Gender: Male
Carpe noctum
| | | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 7 on 1/6/2012 5:07 PM >
|  | | | Posted by dallas1983
ive had an offer to ho out with someone else so im gonna take em up on the offer...
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I'm sure you'll get lots of UER invites to ho out.
http://www.flickr.com/photos/rob666/ |
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sticksandstones
Location: Seattle, WA
Gender: Female
| | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 8 on 1/6/2012 5:14 PM >
| | | | Posted by rob.i.am
I'm sure you'll get lots of UER invites to ho out.
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i just pissed my pants laughing
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Jack Strathmore
Location: Adrian, MI
Gender: Male
Good friends bail you out of jail....true friends will be with you saying, "Damn, that was fun!
| | | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 9 on 1/6/2012 5:18 PM >
| | | | Posted by rob.i.am
I'm sure you'll get lots of UER invites to ho out.
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That almost made me piss my pants......sorry to get off the subject but that is some funny shit right there!
Jack Strathmore
http://www.flickr....os/jackstrathmore/ |
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dallas
Location: seattle
Gender: Female
So long and thanks for all the fish
| | | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 10 on 1/6/2012 6:11 PM >
| | | | Good to know boys lol......
Yes i feel older then i am by 20 yrs and just the thought of exploring gets my heart racing again.....i will keep my eyes out for ho's lol
amazing wife to Narf. Don't look him up or ill cut you. |
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insulinguy
Location: Fort Worth, Texas
Gender: Male
| | | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 11 on 1/6/2012 6:24 PM >
| | | | Posted by dallas1983
....ive had an offer to ho out with someone else so im gonna take em up on the offer...
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i think i know why he isnt into it now.
all jokes aside - what astro said is spot on. you simply must have your own 'thing' that you do - and he should have his. take him to an easy entry - no risk spot - most everyone will decide after even one trip if its for them or not. best of luck and however it turns out - continue exploring and enjoy your alone time as you see fit.
[last edit 1/6/2012 6:25 PM by insulinguy - edited 1 times]
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abandoned-echoes
Location: Creemore, Ontario
Gender: Female
sky might be fallin' but remember you can fly high...
| | | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 12 on 1/6/2012 8:14 PM >
| | | | Definitely put a call out to some locals on here to find some exploring buddies. I met my best friend through UER a couple years ago, and have since made some amazing friendships through this site. You never have to worry about not having something in common, and there's always someone to gush to about your latest discovery.
If your hubby doesn't get it now, he may never get there.... but if he knows you are having fun going out with others, it may start to intrigue him enough that he asks you to take him to a location to try it out again.
"Nothing is static, everything is appalling, everything is falling apart."
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Skye_Ann
Location: Kitchener, Ontario
Gender: Female
I seem to have Irritable Owl Syndrome...
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<Reply # 13 on 1/6/2012 10:01 PM >
| | | | I was going to say "Lock him in the confinement room!! At least until he finds UE cool!!"
But then I remembered it burnt down..
My Blog; https://historyindecay.blogspot.com/ |
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L'Ali
Location: Clarington
Gender: Female
Behind every damsel is a fire breathing dragon
| | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 14 on 1/6/2012 10:01 PM >
| | | | So far haven't had to deal with a partner and not understanding the UE thing, but I can imagine it being very difficult. The ratio of guys to girls into this is not even, so if there is any jealousy you may have an issue. I can comment on friends that don't understand it and actually have quite the jealousy over the new friendships I've forged through UE.
I agree with Abandoned Echoes, some of the best friends I've met have been on here. One I knew before here, the rest that I've met have been pretty amazing.
Posted by rob.i.am
I'm sure you'll get lots of UER invites to ho out |
LMAO...I think that was NOT a spelling mistake 
Everything is sweetened by risk.
-- Alexander Smith
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superphoenix
Location: New York City
Gender: Male
There's a madness to my methods
| | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 16 on 1/6/2012 11:49 PM >
| | | | If you insist on changing your partner, inform him. Show him other side of UE too...do guys not find crane-top/rooftop/bridge shots absolutely ballsy? There's more to exploring than just abandoned buildings!
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otonabee
Location: Peterborough/Bowmanville, Ontario,Canada/ Crypto urbano
Gender: Male
I'm not from here
| | | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 17 on 1/7/2012 8:04 AM >
| | | | I believe everyone loves to explore at some level
Try and find something he finds of interest such as sports, music,outdoor activities, or whatever he has interest in, and then match that up with an abandonment or exploration
I would also like to point out that there are disparate groups within the uer community. So you may also find that although you share a common thread with folks on here for the passion of exploration,your specific interests may vary
Have a few conversations or meet up for coffee before heading out with someone. You don't want to end up in a sewer or dangling from a tower if that is not your forte
Calvin: It's a magical world, Hobbes, Ol' Buddy . . . let's go exploring!
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jerm IX
Location: Somewhere, Ontario, Canada
Gender: Male
If you can't find something nice to say...say it on UER.
| | | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 18 on 1/7/2012 4:49 PM >
| | | | I'm gonna take her out to some spots, she's in good hands.
http://myabandonmentissues.blogspot.ca/ |
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Speed
Location: Philly area
Gender: Male
Retired Explorer
| | Re: Any suggestions to get my non-ue partner to understand....
<Reply # 19 on 1/7/2012 5:29 PM >
| | | | Posted by dallas1983
My partner doesnt understand my fascination with these houses.... He thinks im crazy..... Do i keep trying to make him "get it" or just give up and find another person to ue with...
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you cant make someone "get" something.
I believe certain personalities are drawn to this hobby. He doesnt seem to have one of those personalities. that doesnt make him a bad person just a disinterested one. I'm sure he's into things that dont interest you also.
find another partner to explore with. although if that partner is a male then that could present a whole host of other problems.
my wife says: "see you when you get home." and she knows its not always a sausage party.
in the beginning she liked to see the pictures I shot but years later she kinda doesnt care anymore.
she has zero interest in exploring.
good luck.
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