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UER Forum > Rookie Forum > Female Urban Explorers (Viewed 31103 times)
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Re: Female Urban Explorers
< Reply # 40 on 10/13/2019 6:32 PM >
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Small steps at a time.
Anyone who never feels fear is a fool.
Fear is your friend, listen to it but temper it with sound reasoning and judgement.
If something seems like a bad idea, it probably is.
Learn and respect your limits.

Never be afraid to bug out if the situation appears to be going above the level you're capable of handling saftly.
I stopped a climb a couple years ago because of a sketchy 5 foot section of a ladder half way up; no regrets. Every time I climb I feel fear to some degree and make sure I don't screw up. First time I free climbed over 20 feet I was 6 yo and it was the same then as it is now over half a century later.

Never think that anyone can save you from yourself.
You have to make yourself fully accountable for your actions be it alone or with a group.
Make no mistake, falls and structural collapse are the biggest risks you face.
Exploring solo teaches you self reliance, forces you to think and act soundly.
It is a valuable skill worth learning.

It's your big brain that makes you formidable ... if you use it.


While yes, I am afraid of structural failures, I'm actually more scared of the people that I might stumble upon by myself.
I work very closely with the psychiatric population, and even in a controlled environment violence is very common. I've been close to having my lights knocked out many times in that context. Now an abandoned building by myself? No way I could defend myself.




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Re: Female Urban Explorers
< Reply # 41 on 10/13/2019 7:09 PM >
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While yes, I am afraid of structural failures, I'm actually more scared of the people that I might stumble upon by myself.
I work very closely with the psychiatric population, and even in a controlled environment violence is very common. I've been close to having my lights knocked out many times in that context. Now an abandoned building by myself? No way I could defend myself.



See them, hear them, smell them (cigs, sometimes aftershave,soap etc) before they do you.
The less people, the easier it is the conceal and management yourself.
3 big guys against a bad guy with a .45 are 3 dead guys.
I avoid the homeless and -their- homes; respect.

Most times there will be no one in most locations, after doing this hundreds of times it's the way it works out.
You are your own worst enemy especially if you are distracted and not watching every step you take.
Taking that last step into oblivion is all too easy to do.
Many here, myself included have come very close to doing it or have done it.
No one here that I know of has ever been injured by assault while sploring.

Rule #1 - People are trouble, avoid contact whenever possible.

This is something you need to work out yourself, whichever way you best can.
Keep cell phones muted and noise to a minimum including talking.
No smoking; you can smell it a block downwind.
This becomes much harder as group size increases. The more people, the easier it is to spot you all and the more of a threat you appear to be to others.
Being perceived as a threat can have very bad consequences for you... and cause you to lose opportunities.




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fruitbats 


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Re: Female Urban Explorers
< Reply # 42 on 10/25/2019 5:15 AM >
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We totally exist! Actually of everyone I know personally who explores in my town is a girl lol! I think a lot of us tend to keep it more on the dl and bunch together with other girls cause there’s always that thought of inviting a guy alone to a place and then something bad happening. On the other hand there’s been explores where we’ve brought someone’s inexperienced boyfriend just because for some reason having a guy with you seems like it makes you less of an easy target? Sometimes the extra safety is really worth being slowed down a little. Of course I always keep a pack of cigarettes and a five dollar bill for bargaining purposes and if that fails I carry pepper spray, but in the four years I’ve been doing this I’ve run into one person, and she was just a nice homeless lady who was very confused with why we would want to go into an abandoned barn. But anyways, we exist and we’re (usually) very friendly once you find us!




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Re: Female Urban Explorers
< Reply # 43 on 3/31/2020 9:20 AM >
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I’ve noticed that out of all urban explorers, very few are females. Most of the community is made up of males and finding a girl who enjoys this is rare. Any thoughts on this topic?


A lot of us don't know of such communities to begin with. I always wanted to explore, even as a kid and I did it before I knew that what I was doing was urban exploring. It wasn't until I was in high school though, that I discovered that there were people that do it too. Then, at college age I found out that there were whole communities centered around urban exploring. I would say it's just not something many people do or speak about because people are afraid of the potential dangers and illegalities of their actions that will come with urban exploration.




taragon 


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< Reply # 44 on 4/6/2020 3:14 PM >
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we are definitely out there for sure, but it is still is dominated by men. I feel similarly about finding other trans n queer folks to explore with. I have a few queer friends that I explore with, but I'm always trying to find more lgbtq & specifically trans explorers. It's just nice to have people similar to me and totally understand my own experience and identity. Still working on that.




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Re: Female Urban Explorers
< Reply # 45 on 4/6/2020 5:50 PM >
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we are definitely out there for sure, but it is still is dominated by men. I feel similarly about finding other trans n queer folks to explore with. I have a few queer friends that I explore with, but I'm always trying to find more lgbtq & specifically trans explorers. It's just nice to have people similar to me and totally understand my own experience and identity. Still working on that.


This might not be of any comfort to you, but I had a trans woman try to make herself into my arch-enemy a few years ago. She organised group tours to locations she found through my online pictures, and then would attack me online in every way she could, such as falsely claiming I didn't like her because she wouldn't share her locations with me. In one of our very few direct correspondences, I told her to read up on urban exploration ethics, an the next day she started calling herself the "indisputable queen of urban exploration and urban decay in Korea." She was a real awful person according to all our mutual friends, and her tour company lost its sponsors over time.

A number of my friends trolled her and I had to get some of them to hold back, because her identity didn't have anything to do with this dispute and I didn't want this to turn into a debate over transgenderism. Ironically she unintentionally changed a lot of my outdated ideas on trans people.




taragon 


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Re: Female Urban Explorers
< Reply # 46 on 4/6/2020 6:11 PM >
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this dispute and I didn't want this to turn into a debate over transgenderism. Ironically she unintentionally changed a lot of my outdated ideas on trans people.


Yeah that sounds like she was just not really respecting any exploring ethics (whatever that means) at all. That'd be super annoying no matter who the person is. But yeah that's funny that it still was a beneficial thing for how u understand trans people.




Aran 


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Huh. I guess covid made me a trendsetter.

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< Reply # 47 on 4/6/2020 8:03 PM >
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Yeah that sounds like she was just not really respecting any exploring ethics (whatever that means) at all.


ShotgunMario wrote a really good guide to exploring ethics and what that means. I'd recommend giving it a read, it really lays out the foundation for pretty much all interactions within the urbex community.




"Sorry, I didn't know I'm not supposed to be here," he said, knowing full well he wasn't supposed to be there.

taragon 


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Re: Female Urban Explorers
< Reply # 48 on 4/6/2020 10:12 PM >
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Thanks Aran. I can't actually see that with that link bc I'm not a part of that group. Yeah I was more so pointing to the conflicting definitions of exploring ethics. Ik around here it's a lil more unified in terms of not blowing out spots, stealing, writing, & not doing it for the IG fame lol (which is more of my jam).




inloc 


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< Reply # 49 on 4/7/2020 1:10 AM >
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Not to derail too much...

Posted by Aran
ShotgunMario wrote a really good guide to exploring ethics and what that means.


Posted by taragon
I can't actually see that with that link bc I'm not a part of that group.


The title is "Foundation Concepts of Good Exploring Habits". Some changes have been made (I'm not sure by who) since that one was posted publicly, but that should at least get you started.






Aran 


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Huh. I guess covid made me a trendsetter.

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< Reply # 50 on 4/9/2020 6:33 AM >
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Posted by inloc
Not to derail too much...





The title is "Foundation Concepts of Good Exploring Habits". Some changes have been made (I'm not sure by who) since that one was posted publicly, but that should at least get you started.





Thanks for finding a working link, I didn't realize many users couldn't see it. I kinda forgot that the link I posted was to the Tier II access section of that particular forum, whoops.



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"Sorry, I didn't know I'm not supposed to be here," he said, knowing full well he wasn't supposed to be there.

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< Reply # 51 on 4/9/2020 10:10 AM >
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See them, hear them, smell them (cigs, sometimes aftershave,soap etc) before they do you.
The less people, the easier it is the conceal and management yourself.
3 big guys against a bad guy with a .45 are 3 dead guys.
I avoid the homeless and -their- homes; respect.

Most times there will be no one in most locations, after doing this hundreds of times it's the way it works out.
You are your own worst enemy especially if you are distracted and not watching every step you take.
Taking that last step into oblivion is all too easy to do.
Many here, myself included have come very close to doing it or have done it.
No one here that I know of has ever been injured by assault while sploring.

Rule #1 - People are trouble, avoid contact whenever possible.

This is something you need to work out yourself, whichever way you best can.
Keep cell phones muted and noise to a minimum including talking.
No smoking; you can smell it a block downwind.
This becomes much harder as group size increases. The more people, the easier it is to spot you all and the more of a threat you appear to be to others.
Being perceived as a threat can have very bad consequences for you... and cause you to lose opportunities.


You're such a cawk breath.





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Posted by taragon
we are definitely out there for sure, but it is still is dominated by men. I feel similarly about finding other trans n queer folks to explore with. I have a few queer friends that I explore with, but I'm always trying to find more lgbtq & specifically trans explorers. It's just nice to have people similar to me and totally understand my own experience and identity. Still working on that.


For what it’s worth, I know for certain there are at least a few trans (and lgbtq) explorers out there (and on UER), a couple of them are friends of mine.
So keep looking and keep exploring!




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Radio2600 


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Lot's a women out there in the world of exploring. They tend to steer clear of me though.

I'm often mistaken for being like Charles Manson's crazy brother.

Some folks even think I might be a cereal killer.

Better check your corn flakes.




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xNat 


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Some folks even think I might be a cereal killer.

Better check your corn flakes.


I've always been more of a fan of rice crispies, myself.




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Aran 


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Huh. I guess covid made me a trendsetter.

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Lot's a women out there in the world of exploring. They tend to steer clear of me though.

I'm often mistaken for being like Charles Manson's crazy brother.

Some folks even think I might be a cereal killer.

Better check your corn flakes.


Oh god oh fuck he's in the Cap'n Crunch somebody help m-



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"Sorry, I didn't know I'm not supposed to be here," he said, knowing full well he wasn't supposed to be there.

Radio2600 


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Oh god oh fuck he's in the Cap'n Crunch somebody help m-


Good catch!

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s0phie 


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we are definitely out there for sure, but it is still is dominated by men. I feel similarly about finding other trans n queer folks to explore with. I have a few queer friends that I explore with, but I'm always trying to find more lgbtq & specifically trans explorers. It's just nice to have people similar to me and totally understand my own experience and identity. Still working on that.


i'm a trans girl, a lesbian, and do urbex!

i agree on it being nice to explore with people that have some shared base of understanding. it's actually kinda funny to me because most of the people i know that are into urbex are trans/queer in some way. my girlfriend and i are both super into urbex and work on research a lot together, and at least two other trans people i know on my campus have at least a passing interest.

i'm always a bit worried about doing stuff out because i feel slightly more scared getting caught by LEOs or property owners (or nosy Karens) as a trans girl, but it's not the worst thing ever. the urbex community seems overall pretty welcoming too which is nice. it's also cool that queer people are carving out some space in the community, esp younger ones, bc i feel like (at least the people i know) aren't doing it for flashy photos for insta or w/e




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< Reply # 58 on 4/24/2020 11:14 PM >
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i'm a trans girl, a lesbian, and do urbex!

i agree on it being nice to explore with people that have some shared base of understanding. it's actually kinda funny to me because most of the people i know that are into urbex are trans/queer in some way. my girlfriend and i are both super into urbex and work on research a lot together, and at least two other trans people i know on my campus have at least a passing interest.

i'm always a bit worried about doing stuff out because i feel slightly more scared getting caught by LEOs or property owners (or nosy Karens) as a trans girl, but it's not the worst thing ever. the urbex community seems overall pretty welcoming too which is nice. it's also cool that queer people are carving out some space in the community, esp younger ones, bc i feel like (at least the people i know) aren't doing it for flashy photos for insta or w/e


Is it bold of me too assume you listen to Sophie Xeon?

I think it's important to feel comfortable doing things you like, so it's awesome you have likeminded people to share the hobby with. It's shitty you have to experience a little extra worry... hopefully that eases :]





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s0phie 


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Is it bold of me too assume you listen to Sophie Xeon?


I do! SOPHIE was a great introduction to PC Music and adjacent stuff. she's super cool. name is entirely unrelated to her though; honestly, sophie is just a pseudonymous mononym i use online because my actual chosen name would be pretty trivial to correlate with my uni and location because of research and student gov stuff i've done.


I think it's important to feel comfortable doing things you like, so it's awesome you have likeminded people to share the hobby with. It's shitty you have to experience a little extra worry... hopefully that eases :]


yeah im really glad i have friends who are into urbex who are cool and not shitty about my identity and/or also queer/trans. i think it'll get easier over time, mainly because i'm really anxious about some of the spots i explore for other reasons, but i'm glad im not the only one in the community with this particular intersection of attributes.




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