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UER Forum > Archived US: Great Lakes > Chicago Funeral Home... (Viewed 593 times) Jennasaurus Rex  Location: East Texas Gender: Female RAWR  |  Chicago Funeral Home... < on 9/4/2007 6:45 AM >   So, I happen to know the owners of a funeral home in Chicago. They recently sold the place and let me take a tour before they tear it down and create yet another Starbucks, or something. It was as basic as can be (keeping in mind I went to college to be a funeral director so have spent tons of time in these places) but the back storage room was filled with boxes of cremains... Rows of them... I asked the owner later and he said that they were the cremated remains of people whose family have never claimed them. He said that they were only required to keep them for a small amount of time and them they had the right to dispose of them. He said he couldn't bring himself to just get rid of them. He has literally ROOMS of things that people brought in for wakes and funerals and them refused to claim. It was all quite erie. He is putting everything in storage in the hopes that people might come to claim their items one day... This got me thinking about all the personal things that other people have left behind at other places... I have never been able to understand why people leave personal affects behind. Now seeing that there are people who can't even be bothered to claim the ramins of their children... How is it that everything in life has become SO disposable? Sorry about the rant... I just don't understand people sometimes... [last edit 9/4/2007 6:46 AM by Jennasaurus Rex - edited 1 times] XOXO!!! Jenni Wiccan  Location: Hamilton Ontario Gender: Female  |  Re: Chicago Funeral Home... <Reply # 1 on 9/4/2007 4:35 PM >   I could be wrong,but I suspect that one reason that cremated remains get left behind is that the families are unable or unwilling to pay the costs and such,thus never coming back for them. Sad,very sad. When my brother passed away in January, my Dad couldn't sleep until Terry's ashes were returned to him. Jennasaurus Rex  Location: East Texas Gender: Female RAWR  |  Re: Chicago Funeral Home... <Reply # 2 on 9/4/2007 7:41 PM >   I asked that... They are all paid for... The people that couldn't pay the full bill were subsidized by Catholic Charities thanks to St. Viator Catholic Church, and the families were notified of this... XOXO!!! Jenni secret  Location: St. Paul, MN Gender: Male  |  Re: Chicago Funeral Home... <Reply # 3 on 9/5/2007 1:08 AM >   Hmm Some girls should just be happy they were invited to the prom.. /-/ooligan  Location: Las Vegas area Gender: Male When in danger, when in doubt, RUN IN CIRCLES, SCREAM AND SHOUT!  |  Re: Chicago Funeral Home... <Reply # 4 on 9/5/2007 1:23 AM >   I know from experience that driving to a funeral home to pick up a box of ashes (I think usually a couple weeks after the death/funeral) can be a very emotional experience which some people want to avoid, or delay long enough to where you end up avoiding it. Avoiding getting the cremains also conveniently avoids the unpleasant follow-up of issue of deciding what in the heck to do with the ashes. All of the above is difficult enough if it's just one immediate relative, but if the next of kin is a distant relative or there are several relatives bickering, and or some drawn-out probate matters there can be even more of an incentive to just not want to have to deal with getting the ashes! There are no stupid questions, just stupid people. CDSbigsby  Location: Lancaster, Ohio Gender: Male  |  |  Re: Chicago Funeral Home... <Reply # 5 on 9/6/2007 12:42 AM >   Wow, I never could understand the usual sorts of things people leave behind, but abandoning a loved one...That's just cold. Also, sounds like a very eerie experience, but cool nonetheless. Won't you help me, Mr. Jesus, Won't you tell me, if you can When you see this world we live in, Do you still believe in man? JohnInMi   |  Re: Chicago Funeral Home... <Reply # 6 on 9/12/2007 2:51 AM >   While re-reading this thread, I just remembered something my Great Aunt told me over 20 years ago. Her hubby had just passed on and his remains were cremated. When she told the funeral director that she would be back later (or the next day) to pick up the ashes, he said something like, "Ok, right, sure" When she asked what he meant by that, he told her that (just like the undertaker in Lady_Grace's example) he had a whole room full of unclaimed ashes and that all the folks who failed to show up told him the same thing: "I'll be back tomorrow to get the remains", or words to that effect rainman8889  Location: H.T.S.F.C. Time to gain and a time to lose. Bye for now.  |  Re: Chicago Funeral Home... <Reply # 7 on 9/14/2007 12:46 AM >   I remember retrieving my Dad's personal effects from the hospital when he died. It was a very sick feeling. I couldn't even drive home and a friend of mine had to drive home for me. The worst part was his wallet. I found a photo of him taken before he emigrated to Canada among other items. Those were just things. Retrieving the person's cremains can be extremely stressful at best. When my friend's Dad died, he and his wife went to bring home the ashes. He was a wreck for a few days but he was grateful his Dad was finally 'home'. And then you have people who couldn't care less. I helped clear out a house where the tenants just simply walked away. (The mother left with her boyfriend and left the kids with their father) I found children's pictures among the stuff in the shed (seemed to have been there during the entire time the tenants were living there). These pics were school photos, family gatherings, and all the other times during a child's life. The tenants were called and we were told they couldn't care less. Pretty damned sad if you ask me. Gone for a while. Be back when I'm back. UER Forum > Archived US: Great Lakes > Chicago Funeral Home... (Viewed 593 times) All content and images copyright © 2002-2024 UER.CA and respective creators. Graphical Design by Crossfire. 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