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Heres the back story:
I met a girl this summer. shes twenty six and has three kids. Im twenty five and have no kids. she has her life togiether pretty well a good job her own place and a car. everything im not. but despite that we hit it off. We got to txting and we hooked up. it was only supposed to be a booty call, but it ended up into a giant cluster fuck. She started dating someone else but we continued to see each other and fool around once in awhile. her boyfriend was sent to jail and it was game on after that. we hung out 4-5 times a week. we started to get pretty serious and she left her boyfriend, but we never started dating.
now she has commitment issues because shes afraid to get hurt and when she starts getting close to someone and really likes someone she pushes them away. she warned me thats how she is. so she cut it off right before i went to jail.
well i just got out this week and we started talking and yesterday we ended up making out when we hungout. Shes told me several times that she misses "us" and the sex. I'll give her that it is the most craziest passionate sex ive ever had in my life.
But im really interested in this other girl and she seems to be a great match for me. we like all the same things and get along amazingly and she makes me happy.
but the girl i was seeing this summer just does something to me. were like a tornado and a huricanne when we get togeither and she makes me smile and act like an idiot when im around her and we both can read each other like a book and we a have a really special connection ive never felt before. we know almost everything about each other and we are really open with each other. But i know shes no good for me. we're both just too intense when we get around each other. its like fireworks. I want to just be friends with her in a way and just hook up once in awhile and she says she wants that too. but shes really needy and jealous the exact opposite of how she used to be. before i doubted if she even cared but its pretty clear she does.
SO how do i wade through all the mixed signals and make this work. If i thought she was serious id date her in a heartbeat. And id just talk to her about it but she'll just deny it if i bring it up.
The Misandry around these parts is redonkulous. Sorry I was born with male anatomy.
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as much as i want to say WTF? i wont.
but at the same time, if i were you, look at the facts...
she pushes away- DONT push the relationship thing.
she has kids- do you want to be involved in "kids" it fun but also a pita...
she has/had a bf- what happens when he gets out.
she is "giving it up"- yeah thats on the plus side.
she and you= best crazy monkey sex... see line above this...
your last line, says it all.
so dont change anything about this "relationship" or what ever its called, i think its above an F.W.B. plan at this time. she is not wanting anything more than what it is now. enjoy it while it lasts...
good luck.
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I'm a big believer in that you can never have an honest successful relationship if it started with one of you cheating.
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thanks for the advice. i just needed to confirm what i was thinking.
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My question is, what did you do to end up in jail?
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killed one of the kids
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I think everybody involved in this situation needs to stop going to jail.
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If she cheated WITH you, she will cheat ON you.
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Posted by Brind
I think everybody involved in this situation needs to stop going to jail.
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Posted by Brind
I think everybody involved in this situation needs to stop going to jail.
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LOL agreed!
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Posted by Shawn W.
My question is, what did you do to end up in jail?
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pissed dirty for felony probation.
Update: started dating the second chick without kids and im about to bang the chick with kids that i was seeing. yes i know im a scumbag. this chick just drives me crazy and knows how to make all the bells and whistles go off. We're best friends and im happy with just being that. but i couldnt pass up the sex.
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Funny story. You are getting sex and you're young so pound away, old friend. However, if there's nothing else there w/the mom I would say go with the other gal.
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We had awkward car sex at a boat launch. it was fun. She wants to date me but i dont want to date her. its turned into a giant bag of fuckery. shes bringing me to see my gf in the next town over sat. I know shes going to try to fuck me before i see my gf and i probably will. I feel like such a scumbag. I like both girls but i dont want to let my gaurd down and be vulnerable to either. ive never done anything like this and i feel bad about it.
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Posted by compaq12986
We had awkward car sex at a boat launch. it was fun. She wants to date me but i dont want to date her. its turned into a giant bag of fuckery. shes bringing me to see my gf in the next town over sat. I know shes going to try to fuck me before i see my gf and i probably will. I feel like such a scumbag. I like both girls but i dont want to let my gaurd down and be vulnerable to either. ive never done anything like this and i feel bad about it.
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this is going to end badly. you will be luck if you get out of this without getting kicked in the balls.
but, if i were in your shoes, i would be bangin the snot outta both of them...
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Posted by cdevon
this is going to end badly. you will be luck if you get out of this without getting kicked in the balls.
but, if i were in your shoes, i would be bangin the snot outta both of them...
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I am.
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Posted by compaq12986
I am. WINNING!
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fixed it.
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Posted by compaq12986
SO how do i wade through all the mixed signals and make this work.
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I don't think fucking both of them is the way to achieve what you want. Just sayin'
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Ya, what Metawaffle said.
Dude, hope you are using protection.
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Posted by metawaffle
I don't think fucking both of them is the way to achieve what you want. Just sayin'
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The problem is i just cant say no to the girl from this summer. she knows it and i know it. we've been hanging out alot and texting each other like made these last two weeks. i genuinely do consider her to be one of my best friends. She just turns me into a smiling idiot when shes around and theres just something there that ive never felt with anyone else.
The second girl is pretty much just like me and i get along with her really well, but i dont feel any sparks with her. she lets me do pretty much anything i want to her in bed and shes a freak. but i just dont feel the connection that i do with the girl with kids. Partly i think because im afraid to let my guard down to get hurt by either women.
and lastly to and to the whole douchebaggery i do not use a condom.
I know what im doing is very dumb and immature. In a way the whole things an ego booster, but in another i just want to settle down and be happy, but im just not sure which way to go or if either women is who i want to make a commitment to of any sort.
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Posted by compaq12986
shes twenty six and has three kids. Im twenty five and have no kids.
...But i know shes no good for me.
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Posted by compaq12986
and lastly to and to the whole douchebaggery i do not use a condom.
I know what im doing is very dumb and immature.
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