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Infiltration Forums > Private Boards Index > A Grief Forum > Seven Years(Viewed 2470 times)
GotPaisley! location:
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Seven Years
< on 11/17/2008 4:20 PM >
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Today is Seven years since my mom passed away!
It's supposed to get easier but not for me.
As each day passes I miss her more & more.

I go to therapy & do all the things that I'm supposed to do.
I did the bereavement classes & meetings.

I just feel so lost & when she died so did
a huge part of me!

I don't know how to fix it!





There must be quite a few things a hot bath won't cure, but I don't know any of them.
~Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar
shellyl location:
Lenoir NC
 
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Re: Seven Years
<Reply # 1 on 11/17/2008 7:06 PM >
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I wish I could give you a big hug right now.

I know that I miss my son just as much today as I did when he died and more. I handle it different as time goes on but the feelings are the same. I was hoping as I write this that I could give you some magic words to make it better. I was told early on that it would be like this. A friend lost his daughter and told me that you never get over, you get through. It will become your new "normal" but Shelly trying to stop missing him is like trying to stop a moving train, you can't. You wait and let it pass. There are the days that you catch the first rail car and it just moves so slow and then the days you catch the last few cars, the gates open and you are on your way.




A mirage is not an optical illusion. It is a real phenomenon, and one can take photographs of it. The interpretation of the image, however, is up to the fantasy of the human mind.

GotPaisley! location:
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Re: Seven Years
<Reply # 2 on 11/20/2008 4:43 PM >
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Thanks Shellyl for the lovely words. I know we all grieve in different ways. I'm also sorry for your loss. I would never wish the grieving process on anyone!


I made it through the last couple of days. I didn't leave the house & spent most of the time in bed but I feel better! I always mourned for the loss of my Mom but last year it really hit me in the face when some family issues occurred. I just take one day at a time.


Thanks for the support



There must be quite a few things a hot bath won't cure, but I don't know any of them.
~Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar
DiVaMoNKeY location:
Grundy County, IL
 
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Re: Seven Years
<Reply # 3 on 11/21/2008 3:33 PM >
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I'm sorry. I will send positive thoughts and prayers your way.



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rainman8889 location:
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Re: Seven Years
<Reply # 4 on 2/28/2009 9:41 PM >
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Posted by GotPaisley!
Today is Seven years since my mom passed away!
It's supposed to get easier but not for me.
As each day passes I miss her more & more.

I go to therapy & do all the things that I'm supposed to do.
I did the bereavement classes & meetings.

I just feel so lost & when she died so did
a huge part of me!

I don't know how to fix it!




April will mark 22 years since my Dad died. I still miss him and no, it doesn't get easier. When he died, I too felt lost, betrayed and got to the point that I didn't care about anything anymore.

What has been a help to me are the good memories (shared jokes etc) with my Dad and I've learned there are certain things in life you can't change. Sadly, one of them is the fact that loved ones die and often before their time. Another thing that has helped is hanging on to my friends and family. When they suffered the loss of a parent, I was there for them and while my own pain didn't go away, helping them with theirs (sometimes as simple as lending a sympathetic ear and a shoulder to cry on), has helped me with mine.

I don't know what else to say to help but try to remember, you're not alone.



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