Posted by mookster I'm still waiting with baited breath for the obvious and various self explanatory reasons why he won't explore with a female? If it's not the boobies I think he's scared of girls having lived for years in a darkened basement being a whiny bitch on the internet. Going deeper I'd say his years of outbursts are due to an equal number of years of his peepee not getting touched by anyone other than himself.

Ask Mike Pence. He only goes exploring with Mother.

Posted by tx3000 Sorry but due to the way society is as a whole, the only female explorer I pair up with is my wife. A lot of obvious and various reasons are self explanatory and don't need to be explained on why I refuse to pair up with a female explorer hate me for that all you want, I don't care. it's self explanatory.

^ Moon The Loon lives... you saw it 1st on UER!

Posted by tx3000 Except that isn't a valid statement. People who hide, are hypocrites, cannot even follow their own criteria for establishing trust, and reuse to even try you cannot saying no one wants to meet up because they don't trust me. that isn't how it works You guys are the ones refusing to establish trust, I am not You guys remain hidden, I am not You guys are the ones not following your own criteria for establishing trust, I am not You guys are the ones refusing to even start establishing trust I have done what people said to do.. So how am I the one not to be trusted?

Veryyy late to the party here.
What I think this blob of text is asking is why are we not immediately trusting you when you are wide out in the open.

Well I spent a hot couple of minutes going over your post history, thinking, and trying to figure out where everything went downhill.

Trust is a very tricky thing. It's a long process to build up trust. Trust is really hard to build but super easy to break.

The fact that you are wide out in the open has no effect on our desire to trust you. Trust is especially important for urban exploration because as dramatic as it sounds you will need to put your lives in the hands of your exploring partner in certain situations.

Specifically on the uer, trust can be built a couple of ways. First and foremost is to consistently contribute to the forums. In addition, directly communicating through pm's is very valuable.

I went through your post history and you started off great. You contributed to the forums and shared what you knew. People took your first thread about grappling hooks pretty well. However, in the later thread Re: What is in your backpack?(http://www.uer.ca/...=128456&currpage=3) is where things fall apart. You and a couple other members had a disagreement and banter back and worth a little bit. Then you suddenly decided to go off and become extremely defensive about fucking latex gloves and Vaseline. On later threads, whenever a simple jab was made at you you would become extremely defensive instead of just brushing it off or joking back like a normal person.

UER has a reputation of being rough with not just newcomers, but honestly everyone. You need to learn to roll with the punches and learn from your mistakes. These remarks are not meant to shatter you to your very core, they are just jabs. You even had a realization of this in this thread (http://www.uer.ca/...urrpage=1&pp#post0) yet it would not last. You took the bait I guess in later posts and became extremely defensive. Every single joke about using a grappling hook you would take as if it was an attack against your life.


As the situation progressed, some of the users looked into your patterns and habits on the internet on other websites and forums. The results were not good as it revealed you had a habit of derailing internet forums with your antics. Your extremely defensive nature coupled with your history both contributed to people not wanted to trust you.

Had you deescalated at any point in time this may had all turned out a lot differently. However, you never backed down and only increased your intensity. Perhaps you might return from the temp ban eventually and change your ways. It will take a lot of time but it is possible for you to mature. However it is also very possible that you change nothing at all. Good luck man.